It has been awhile since I have written anything but I knew I wanted to write something about how I have been feeling lately.
I’ve been struggling with seeing and accepting myself as a beautiful woman. I see all these sexy beautiful women all different shapes, sizes and colors and I admire them I envy them.
Things have been hard for me I split with my dom and I have been struggling with believing that I deserve to be happy and loved.
I’m working on rediscovering myself I think women get so caught up in wanting to take care of everyone else that we forget about ourselves we give and give until we drain ourselves until we have nothing left. We forget to appreciate us as individuals we neglect ourselves we want to make sure everyone around us is happy and taken care of that we forget to take care about the most important person in our lives ourselves.
What’s Wrong With Putting You First?
I think we have to recharge ourselves we have to take the time to appreciate who we are. In order for us to fully be happy and love others and to be loved by others we need to love ourselves first.
We have to stop criticizing ourselves because if we are negative towards ourselves long enough we believe the negative things are the truth which they aren’t.
The Reality Is …
No one is perfect I am not perfect I am not a size 6 nor will I ever be.
I am just me.
I’ve been reading articles and talking to people but a suggestion made me have a lightbulb moment.
I looked at myself for the longest time in the mirror a suggestion/ exercise that I got told to do by a wise man and I didn’t recognize the girl staring back at me my confidence is gone and I know I’ve lost myself.
So I do these mirror exercises and If you have low self confidence I recommend that you do it too.
Tell yourself your beautiful you will eventually see it.
Let yourself go be vulnerable with accepting the things about yourself that you just can’t change. Scream, Cry let out anything that your carrying inside that’s burdening you or holding you down.
Stop Criticizing Yourself
Nobody is perfect if you keep concentrating on negative things then you’re going to start believing it the negativity will become your reality. Stop thinking that you have to be perfect because you don’t cut yourself some slack.
PRAISE YOURSELF
Finding the good things about yourself and complimenting yourself helps you work on your self-esteem and your feelings of self-worth. When you belittle yourself or insult yourself you don’t even realize what you truly doing is destroying the person that’s within you. So find something everyday that you can say positive about yourself find your beauty and hold it own it. Look at yourself and say what is great about you. If you have a hard time doing that even do the simplest thing like let someone else compliment you without giving a snarky comment back where you don’t really believe what they’re saying take what they’re saying and accept the compliment believe in that compliment.
JUST TRY
STOP SCARING YOURSELF
Many people let their negative thoughts about themselves spiral out of control making us feel anxious and even letting us act out irationally in ways that we normally wouldn’t.
Take A Minute And Breathe
Replace all the negative thoughts with positive thoughts or positive images in your mind see yourself as that beautiful woman that you know is in there get rid of the negative thoughts and emotions that are blocking her from coming out.
Be Your Own Best Friend
The truth is you have to make yourself happy you go to bed with yourself and you wake up with yourself and you have to live each day dealing with the things that you take in in the things that you put out. You know your flaws and scars you know your weaknesses and your strengths you and only you alone can control how something or someone makes you feel. You need to realize that you need to show yourself the same love and compassion and consideration that you are giving to everybody else but yourself the most important person.
Accept Your Negatives
We all have flaws and Imperfections and things that we would like to change about ourselves we are women and we’re hard on ourselves we can’t help it sometimes it’s just in our nature that’s how we are. Nothing is forever including the negative things you hold onto. You have to learn to release it and let it go.
Focus On The Positives
Realize that you are a beautiful woman no matter your size, imperfections, or scars that you have let go of whatever it is that has a hold on you. Try to stop beating yourself down and see the gorgeous, smart, funny, sexy, intelligent woman that you are.
Tell yourself you deserve great things because you do.
Do Something For You Everyday
We need to see ourselves in a different and new light we’ve been focusing so much on the negative that it’s hard for us to find the positive we are so focused on the bad things about us that we don’t see the good we dont see the beauty that is radiating and waiting to shine from within us.
Do something for yourself something that makes you feel beautiful something that makes you feel sexy do that exercise of looking in the mirror and saying those positive comments to yourself or keep a journal or take pictures of yourself something that is just for you something that will make you see how great and special and beautiful you truly are remember you do not need anyone’s approval except your own you have to be happy with yourself.
Repeat this every day till you start to see her staring back at you the smart, sexy, desirable, sassy and confident woman that you lost. The woman that you are!!
I am working on myself one day at a time. Discovering all that I am and all that I can be.
I am a work in progress. I am focused on making me see and discover the woman I know that I am the woman that I can be.
These Pictures Are Of Me!! They Are Who I Am Flaws, Imperfections & All.
Sharp Dressed Dom 