This has not come easily. Tons of work on my part with mistakes made. At times, having to understand that parts of me are parts that make me thrive. Other parts as in excusing certain behavior and actions or lack of actions towards me doesn’t happen anymore.
Actions and words that are said to me that bring pain are just not allowed in my circle anymore. I am better than lowering my standards for anyone, and I mean anyone.
I think this is what happens when you make the conscious decision to place yourself first. My hardest down fall and largest growth curve is I am at a place where I place myself first. Took me hitting rock bottom some time ago to get this. I am a healer by nature and I realized that first… I needed to heal myself.
An amazing epiphany really for all women. Once we place ourselves and self care first..our surroundings people, places, and things all become more coherent. I know mine have.
I love that I have a clear conscious in how I treat people. I adore that I speak truth. I thrive on not being sneaky. I truly love having truth in who I am as a person. I am so proud that I do not allow others in my circle who wrong me.
Ladies. Seriously do it. Put every single item on the table, even the ugly items. Deal with them. One at a time. Whether it be family, men, even yourselves— deal with each and continue to grow.
Comment on this post what you bdsmlr username is so we can mass follow everyone!
GREAT idea! I’ve been doing the “find and follow” thing as I see people post their bdsmlr usernames, but it’s been willy-nilly and I’ve missed a bunch of people. And when you’re on bdsmlr, the watchword is: be active! Post, reblog, like. If people see activity with your username (on the Liked list on a post from a blogger you’re already following, for example), they can hover over you in the Notes and press Follow. As of now, looks like 906 of you have found my blog, and I’ve found 350 of y’all. This weekend I’ll try to put in some work to find the rest of you and follow back. A community is a hard thing to kill. 🙂
xRaven-Blackx over on bdsmlr.com for me. I havent posted very much, but hopefully I cant get my shit together soon.
Sharp Dressed Dom 