On the one hand, I think that care and affection are core attributes of D/s relationships more often than not, though of course there are exceptions. On the other hand, my friend @cherished-property dropped a bit of wisdom ages ago: “We need those reminders that “this is not a ‘normal’ relationship.” Love is not enough.”
Here’s the catch @anon …
Most of us actually EXPERIENCE the obedience, service, ownership, structure, etc. as acts of giving and receiving LOVE.
And Wikipedia is vulnerable to defining a thing incorrectly, incompletely, and biased when the vast majority hold to a view.
It’s a great little jumping off point to hunt down reliable information. But don’t bank on the Wikipedia info itself.
BTW, just like marriage, every one and their fucking brother has an opinion on what Power Exchange based relationships look like and mean.
And, just like marriage, the only opinion that matters, is that of the people involved in the actual relationship.
So be direct and detailed with any perspective partners about what your needs and wants are no matter what you call it, whether you call it D/s, M/s, This-Thing-We-Do, or just Harry and Sally ……
I found the below definition on Wikipedia: “Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which love is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures.” — this unsettled me; to think that care and affection isn’t at the core of a dynamic; that service and obedience outweighs love. As someone who only knows D/s and is thinking of pursuing an M/s lifestyle, this really made me pause. Is this true?
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